relationships.

Just by observing others and asking questions to married friends you can pick an amazing amount of experience. Yeah, you learn more on your own. They call it 'baptism under fire'. I love that phrase. Just because (sorry to go christianity on you) you are baptised under water. I think that's one of my top 10 phrases of all time because I've been baptised under fire. I digress, sorry. I think that you can a tremendous amount of information just from observing, sometimes more than actually being in a situation. I just think its how you process data. Somehow I can process data at times and create a hypothesis and it can be right and its pretty solid. That's how I got good at betting on football although I never do now. Some people can just take random info and turn it into something that makes logical sense to everyone.

The reason I am bringing this up is because I've sort of figured out relationships from the outside. Some of this is cliche because, its thats proven right. The other part is my observations.

1. You can't take things too seriously. I know from my own experience I took things way too seriously and so did my significant other. Its like, why are fighting about things that won't even happen and why do I care so much to make a point on somthing that isn't the end the world. There was some things that I thought were such a big deal to me that when I really looked closely at it, I'll do whatever she wants. Because I know if she's happy I'm happy. When you're stubborn and things don't go the way you want them to you try and force them to rather than not being bitter. When it comes to a lot of stuff I just make the most out things but there was time where I had to get in a mood and it really ruined some valuable time. It swings both ways too. The best relationships I've seen are ones where those fights that seem so stupid actually make you tighter as a couple. YOu can laugh about it... not right away but at some point soon. Isn't making up why we fight in the first place??

2. You have to comprimise. No one is going to be perfect all the time. Its like what outkast said, 'I know u like to think yo shit dont stink, but roses don't smell like poooopoooooo' For me I used to have a shorter temper and I used to take things without considering the circumstances around them. As if people were out to get me. And a lot of people in relationships really magnify the things that the other does because we're sensitive to it. That ok though. Because of there's a level of understanding. I work with 2 married couples and its a circus. I here these women who could be my mother, complain like a 22 year old about things that their partner does. It's cute. There's a charge that person puts in you that can make you so mad or so angry but its that emotional factor, that chemisry.

3. You are a better person because of your partner. You make each other better. That might be my own thing because I love to teach and I love to inspire and I absolutely love to see people grow. I see my parents and I see how my dad has changed and become a saint practically. I see my mom, well ok she doesn't really change but I see how shes become so flexible with my dad and his habits. She still nitpicks him, AND ME, but she's learned where its nothing to fight about.

There's a lot more but I really like these 3. Any thoughts? Do I hear an echo? echo? echo? If a tree falls in the forest does it make a sound? If a jabroni rights an obscure blog and doesn't really publicize it and doesn't get much a response is he really making a point or is it just fodder for the internet spiders looking to turn my posts into keyword searches and then accuse me of spam when I cover pop culture??

Can a man become a better man and a more complete person without having a 'significant other'?

Can I see the Cardinals actually win a game in when it counts? NO on that one.