Lar
Lar,
I would love to let your poetic fingertips drop some knowledge on our heads when you said girls have alterior motives. I'm calling you out because - 1. I agree with you to a certain extent but I would love to see what your planned response would be. 2. I think my meager audience will enjoy more of your writing. 3. I'm curious.
Thanks!!!
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Oh heavens! Do I remember the post I made with such a depiction of women? Am I the ultimate back stabber of my own gender? eeek! Have I changed so much as to bluntly retort that your memory has failed you and that I don't believe in "greater" motives of the female kind? Nein. That would be total ausgang. I stand by my words like I stand by my cat. :)
I think women are subconsciously raised to believe that LIFE is not L.I.F.E., but rather chess-- always thinking many steps ahead to stay afloat. It helps ground us to know what's coming...maybe we're afraid of the abyss that awaits us. After all, we've already got a cave "down there"...why should our minds be stuck in the depths of the cave called "future"?? We like light. We like knowing what's at the end of that tunnel...because in the end, we're frickin' neanderthals..and we want to make sure our broad-shouldered cavemen will be able to nurture us with large game (read: money, possessions) and able to protect our loved ones (read: kids).
Maybe I'm crazy for seeing our ways still stuck in the ancient times...they've definitely carried over and some people think I'm nutty for really believing there's still a "connection". Come on, dudes, I wanted to be an archaeologist for half of my life... I'm into this!!
Anyways...I think the greatest blessing AND greatest curse was giving women "equal rights" as we know it. I am not anti-feminist by ANY mean....but, if you take into consideration my theory of neolithic tendencies in our current ways, it's easy to understand that a women's place was known. It was definite in society...we had a stable ground. Now we're flooded with a cacophany of emotions--should we be bold and "bitchy" to get ahead in life? Feel like we don't need men? We can be fine doing everything and raising everything by ourselves? Hell no. Women are not emotionally or physically strong enough to cope that way (most of the time..sure, there are ALWAYS exceptions and women who have stood the test of time..alone!). So now..we're given a push in the working and education realms...we're utilizing our same "motives" in everything we do. We want to know, know, know..and right now. What is it that awaits us? And maybe the mixture of chess-playing in ALL of the realms in our lives confuses us so much that we don't even understand our place in relationships.... just maybe.
I'm not letting the guys of easy, though... guys seem to MOSTLY be simpletons. Very concrete thoughts and feelings (that aren't always expressed properly). Guys know what they want, but they just don't express it well. Girls, for the most part, know what they want (or a general idea of how they "want things to be" in the future), but OVER-communicate it in relationships to where it may seem forceful.
If a woman's not over-communicating certain types of intentions in a relationship...it's possible she never really felt there was a future to begin with.
All just opinions anyway...just my own, crazy words. :)
You asked for a response!! Sorry it's such a long one.... :P
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