was it something i said? NAH

I got chewed out today for something I said last nite. In facte I don't even know if I got chewed so much as told that I was wrong, or that I lied, which isn't true.

In a conversation that I didn't start about a friend's mother and how she was cool, I offended my friend. Apparently, she didn't think I was being respectful and that I shouldn't have told the stories. Mind you, everything I said was 100% true and I was piggybacking into a conversation that other people had started didn't know this family as well as I did. Mind one other thing, everything I said was not to be malicious or to imply anything other than how cool someone's mom was. So I'm sure you're dying to know what I said....

My friend's mother likes to drink. And she's a real cool mom and person for an Indian mother. So I told some stories about how cool she is. Could be taken the wrong way but it was all in good fun and noone else at the table took it any other way than she was cool, I know that for a fact. The thing is, I would be 100% comfortable if she went and told her mom everything that I said because it was all legit and truthful.

So I felt like I did something and felt bad when she scolded me and everything. I was wondering what my problem was then. THEN, I talked to one of my best friends and told him the whole story verbatum. When you get someone else's perspective it just opens your eyes.

My friend was mad at me and how I was portraying her mother to others, she felt bad about her mom. There is a sad possibility that her mom does have a drinking problem. And once I got the back story and truth to EVERYONE's behavior (about 4 or 5 other people directly related to all this) I realized that if those stories that I told were wrong to mention in the moment that I'm in, then her behavior and actions were wrong to begin with. To be candid, there was a lot of bad things I could've said and not a single one of thsoe thoughts entered my mind at that moment we were talking about stuff until I got chewed out. I think knew at that point that things weren't 100% right in that family. Alot of things are but there was some skeletons in the closet.

I thought about it again because it was really bothering me. I mean, I got skeletons running around raiding the fridge. But it doesn't bother me so much if others know about them because, frankly, I shouldn't have done them if I didn't want people to know about them later. And if you spend your time trying to hide stuff from people you're hiding who you truly are, right??