if only you were guju

"if only you were guju..."

There is so many things I can say about this phrase. This phrase has personal meaning to me because it was said to me. Unfortunately, it needed to come about 6 months ago, not last week.

I know who I am, and I'm so proud of that. Because I was raised the right way and from good family and I learned things the hard way and I learned things from whats others told me. So to all Jain gujurati people if I don't come from where you come from yet we share all the other similarities it doesn't matter... This world that we live in, isn't ideal, its cold. We have to stick together and we have to roll with the punches.

It's one thing to preserve your heritage, culture religion, which is something I believe in myself. That is why I've made a concious effort to date indian girls, vegetarians, with similar views on religion as I have. But it is amazing how gujurati people take it to the next level. Its obviously not all gujus and its not just gujus who try to protect their subculture. But being Jain is hard enough to find the right person. Even before I got involved with YJA I felt like an outsider. It took me sometime to feel accepted but I still don't feel comfortable there, because I'm not gujurati. Its funny when I meet people other Jain people and there surprised that there's other people that aren't gujurati but Jain. Um yeah, we do exist and yeah for the record JAINISM did originate in Gujurat it comes North India. In fact most of the holy sites don't arent even in Gujurat. So is it always going to be this way?

Measure of success of a relationship CAN be defined by where somebody comes from or what their origin is, but is it necessary? If someone makes you happy and you click with them then that should be good enough as long other basic rwquirements are met, right? I know that you only get so many shots at having something good and real. I had one and apparently wasn't enough of a foundation to hold it together.

The truth is, if you go through life thinking that someone is out there that checks all the boxes, there will be something you don't like. I know for me I've met tons of girls that check all the right boxes but I'm not attracted to them and/or there's no connection. And when you find something that works for you and feels right then you make comprimises because you want it to work well then thats REAL. EH... Somethings are worth fighting for when you know got that feeling. And there's also a time to let it be and let things figure themselves out.