Dating Non-indians

I had a conversation with a friend of mine who self-admittedly told me she doesn't really fit into the Indian scene. That's a whole nother topic (word/phrase?) to delve into but it came in realm of her finding a guy, or dating a guy. She feels that Indians in groups or Indians hang with just Indians are not open-minded. I disagree I think that they are similar minded. The same way we hang out with people that have similar interests and are similar in other ares. For instance, I don't really hang out with alot of convservative Republican people and that is not a coincidence.

I think that when you date someone you have to think about where it's going and what the objective is. When I date girls that aren't Indian I know in my heart that it can only go so far. It took me a long time to realize that but and I feel bad because in a way I led on some people I think. But some girls knew before I knew and they ended things with me.

It's funny because most girls complain to me how Indians guys dont treat them well. They follow that up with how a white guy made them feel special with some gesture, however trite and conventional it was. Indian guys don't come mature. In fact, we take longer than the rest of our species.

I feel for Indian girls because I know that the pickin's are slim especially when you get to that age. I encourage you though to comprimise and open your mind. Sticking to a dream or a vision in your head of what you imagined as a partner, that has to be something that can shift.

We have to carry out our family traditions and values otherwise they will fade away. It's what makes us special in America. I'll write more on this later.